The Mental Marathon Runner
In our interview for the issue 2, with Kamile, Lithuanian musician and theatre director we talk about the power of therapy and what happens when you start telling the truth... to yourself. It's painfull to stop running away from fears, yet once you decide to go into the fire - to properly burn - it stops hurting and a new chapter automatically begins. This is a conversation about mental health, self love, and building a career based on believing in yourself as opposed to feeling like you are not enough, not great, and not worthy.
“So would you say that pain is actually healthy?
Pain is a gift, it opens up such realms and such depths within you. You come to realise these are the only things you actually learn and grow from. At the same time, it’s scary to recognise that so many of these realms are still waiting to be opened within me. There’s still so much to be experienced. Breakups and divorces do have an element of death to them – but to think that actual deaths of close ones are still to come... It’s difficult.
Are you capable of being angry?
You know what, I’m learning. My whole life I was the person who doesn’t get angry. When I’d feel any anger rising up, I’d be a master of hiding it away and pretending it wasn’t there. Everyone kept telling me I was so wise for doing this, but it was so unhealthy. Eventually, I began to learn how to react and feel anger.
How do you learn to be angry?
First of all, you have to notice it. You have to recognise that the emotion you’re feeling is anger. Generally, not noticing is the key to harmful deception. Afterwards, if you can, you need to keep an eye on that anger and create a distance between it and yourself. When you want to act on anger, you should choose a wise way to do so, and that usually involves communicating, explaining that something is causing anger within you. You have to let that anger out in a way that doesn’t harm the other person.“
You can read the full article in -What do people do? Issue 2 magazine, order at our online shop.
